Don’t Wish Your Life Away

Post written by Sherri Kruger. Follow me on Twitter.

It’s not uncommon to be stuck in a rut. We’ve all been there. We all know how it feels to get up, get dressed, go to work, come home and go to bed only to do it all over again the next day. And the next day. And the next day.

Routine isn’t necessarily a bad thing but it shouldn’t be at the expense of your happiness or your relationships with others.

Where a routine can be bad is when you are stuck in the same one for extended periods of times. You may find yourself saying things like I wish I had a better relationship with my brother, or I wish we had more spontaneity in our marriage. So how do you solve this? How do you break out of these ruts? How do you get your wish granted? Simple. Don’t wish your life away. Do something.

The only way to get out of a rut, as difficult as it may seem, is to actually do something. Take control of the situation and make something happen.

If you want a better relationship with someone ask yourself “what am I doing to make this relationship better?” If the answer is not much, then you have plenty to work with.

You simply need to start.

Pick up the phone, compose an email, ask them to coffee or out for dinner. You shouldn’t wait for the other person to approach you. Get out there and take the first step. For all you know the other person may be quite content with the way your relationship is right now. If that’s the case they may never approach you wanting to make a change.

Simply put: If something isn’t working for you, then you should do something about it.

Similarly, spontaneity doesn’t just happen. Somebody has to make it happen. But isn’t planned spontaneity a contradiction? Maybe. But you could be waiting an awfully long time for your wife to spring a romantic evening on you or your husband to plan a weekend away. Instead, if there is something that seems fun or something you want to try, do it yourself right out of the blue.

There are no rules for how you live your life, really. It would be unfortunate if you lived most of your life wishing for it to be a certain way, when you likely had the power to create it all along. Don’t wish your life away. It is short and fleeting.

Think of what it is you want, what you’re wishing for and find out how you can make it a reality.

  • Write out what you wish to be different right now. Is it a relationship, a situation, a job or a less than endearing quality?
  • If you were granted your wish what would the ideal situation look like?
  • What is one thing you can do today to get closer to your ideal? Remember baby steps are key.
  • What resources do you need to make it happen?
  • Decide how you’re going to get these resources. (Library, online, stores, books, magazines etc.)
  • Last step DO IT.

The last step is what a lot of people have the most trouble with. We often get stuck in the planning phase that we forget to actually do it and more often we’re scared to do it. Give yourself a break. Don’t be so hard on yourself.

To improve a relationship or a situation you need courage, you may need to swallow some pride and you should really listen to what others have to say about what they really need.

If you’re not living the life you want or need you can change it. The next time you hear yourself say “I wish … ” stop yourself right there and ask yourself: “What little thing can I do right now to start making it a reality?”

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  1. Weird. I recently did a post similar to this, but with a different take. It was based on some advice a nursing home social worker gave to herself: “Don’t ever wish away time.” Consider my article a companion post :) Keep up the great work!

  2. MotherLodeBeth says:

    Reminds me of how I refuse to be the old lady who on her death bed is grieving for the things she wanted to do but didnt do because she was always worried about what others would say or think. Also reminds me of the poem When I’m An Old Lady I Will Wear Purple and how the poem speaks of a red,spending pension money on brandy,summer gloves, satin sandals, sitting down on the pavement when tired, eating samples in shops and learning to spit.

  3. John Sherry says:

    Cracking post. Wishing is easy. The Secret and the Law of Attraction have sold millions of copies on the process but we can all (day) dream. They also head for a final goal or ultimate prize ignoring any opportunities right in front of our nose. So spot on, take a step, one step and get going. Keep it simple from the start, hold an intention (not vision) and be prepared as life responds to your actions. Not rocket science!

  4. Anonymous says:

    “spontaneity doesn’t just happen”

    That’s what spontaneity is. I think the word you’re looking for is happenstance. In an ideal world, everything could go your way by simply willing it; But unfortunately, this is not the case. Sometimes shit DOES happen.

    Although wishing one’s life away is a problem. You’ll end up wondering what happened to all the good stuff going on in that moment that you wished away.

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