Comments on: The Art Of Effective Exchange http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/2009/10/the-art-of-effective-exchange/ Simple Happiness Fri, 30 Jul 2010 23:44:29 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: frances meadows http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/2009/10/the-art-of-effective-exchange/#comment-1169 frances meadows Fri, 29 Jan 2010 04:34:54 +0000 http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/?p=94#comment-1169 i think you guys are right on target!!!! i think you guys are right on target!!!!

]]> By: Sherri Kruger http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/2009/10/the-art-of-effective-exchange/#comment-48 Sherri Kruger Wed, 07 Oct 2009 03:44:32 +0000 http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/?p=94#comment-48 Great suggestions you guys. And thank you for the book references Luc. I've heard of Marshall Rosenberg's book but not the other one. @ zengirl - I completely agree. Waiting until everyone has calmed down or had a chance to collect their thoughts is often good for everyone :) Great suggestions you guys. And thank you for the book references Luc. I’ve heard of Marshall Rosenberg’s book but not the other one.

@ zengirl – I completely agree. Waiting until everyone has calmed down or had a chance to collect their thoughts is often good for everyone :)

]]> By: Zengirl http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/2009/10/the-art-of-effective-exchange/#comment-42 Zengirl Wed, 07 Oct 2009 00:40:19 +0000 http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/?p=94#comment-42 One more suggestion, exchange or communications ways, both parties are open to talk and open to suggestions. Sometimes some of us need alone time periodically. One more suggestion, exchange or communications ways, both parties are open to talk and open to suggestions. Sometimes some of us need alone time periodically.

]]> By: Luc Reid at The Willpower Engine http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/2009/10/the-art-of-effective-exchange/#comment-13 Luc Reid at The Willpower Engine Tue, 06 Oct 2009 02:05:41 +0000 http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/?p=94#comment-13 Sherri and Leo, congratulations on the new site, and I think it's a great idea to make communication one of the first topics you post about. I especially appreciate the reminder about listening without interrupting, and I think Dillon makes a good point for at least some men to concentrate on connecting rather than necessarily fixing. There are two excellent books on this subject, both with a lot of solid experience behind them. Crucial Conversations by Kerry Patterson et al is an exhaustively researched and tested set of information about personal communication, both one-on-one and in groups. Marshall Rosenberg's book Nonviolent Communication offers some overlapping information, but is focused on resolving major conflicts as a participant or mediator. PS - There are a few minor typos in the article. It's easy to understand regardless, but I hoped it would be helpful to point this out. Sherri and Leo, congratulations on the new site, and I think it’s a great idea to make communication one of the first topics you post about. I especially appreciate the reminder about listening without interrupting, and I think Dillon makes a good point for at least some men to concentrate on connecting rather than necessarily fixing.

There are two excellent books on this subject, both with a lot of solid experience behind them. Crucial Conversations by Kerry Patterson et al is an exhaustively researched and tested set of information about personal communication, both one-on-one and in groups. Marshall Rosenberg’s book Nonviolent Communication offers some overlapping information, but is focused on resolving major conflicts as a participant or mediator.

PS – There are a few minor typos in the article. It’s easy to understand regardless, but I hoped it would be helpful to point this out.

]]> By: Dillon http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/2009/10/the-art-of-effective-exchange/#comment-12 Dillon Tue, 06 Oct 2009 01:51:30 +0000 http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/?p=94#comment-12 3b. Listen (who goes first) In our family we (when we get it right) use the guideline of person with the biggest need goes first. This does require grace on someone's part because there are times that we can all feel like our need is the biggest most important one. We then follow your excellent suggestions in 3. Also as a tip for women, try to keep it to the point and men listen and don't try to fix rather go for empathy. 3b. Listen (who goes first) In our family we (when we get it right) use the guideline of person with the biggest need goes first. This does require grace on someone’s part because there are times that we can all feel like our need is the biggest most important one. We then follow your excellent suggestions in 3. Also as a tip for women, try to keep it to the point and men listen and don’t try to fix rather go for empathy.

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