Comments on: A Simple Guide To Keeping Passion In Your Marriage While Kids Are Still In The Home http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/2009/11/a-simple-guide-to-keeping-passion-in-your-marriage-while-kids-are-still-in-the-home/ Simple Happiness Mon, 06 Feb 2012 03:04:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: NZ Chick http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/2009/11/a-simple-guide-to-keeping-passion-in-your-marriage-while-kids-are-still-in-the-home/#comment-539 NZ Chick Tue, 17 Nov 2009 07:10:51 +0000 http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/?p=419#comment-539 I like this post! I'm a stepmum with fulltime kids and know the importance of spending time with my partner. The kids see us greet each other each day when we come home with a cuddle & kiss and hear us asking about our days. I think it is important to show the love and affection, especially entering a broken family. We also have movie night where we all cuddle up & watch a movie, with the kids always very sleepy at the end of the movie. Makes for uninterrupted time once they're in bed! We also have a no TV night each week where after the kids are in bed we do something together, whether its playing a game, cuddling up and reading, making plans about the house/section, talking of our dreams & ambitions. This time is really important to us! I like this post! I’m a stepmum with fulltime kids and know the importance of spending time with my partner. The kids see us greet each other each day when we come home with a cuddle & kiss and hear us asking about our days. I think it is important to show the love and affection, especially entering a broken family.

We also have movie night where we all cuddle up & watch a movie, with the kids always very sleepy at the end of the movie. Makes for uninterrupted time once they’re in bed!

We also have a no TV night each week where after the kids are in bed we do something together, whether its playing a game, cuddling up and reading, making plans about the house/section, talking of our dreams & ambitions. This time is really important to us!

]]> By: Carolina http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/2009/11/a-simple-guide-to-keeping-passion-in-your-marriage-while-kids-are-still-in-the-home/#comment-533 Carolina Mon, 16 Nov 2009 20:58:14 +0000 http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/?p=419#comment-533 I think this is so important. even without kids, romance and sex can sometimes go by the wayside due to career/schedules/school etc. I think this is so important. even without kids, romance and sex can sometimes go by the wayside due to career/schedules/school etc.

]]> By: Juggling Motherhood http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/2009/11/a-simple-guide-to-keeping-passion-in-your-marriage-while-kids-are-still-in-the-home/#comment-529 Juggling Motherhood Sun, 15 Nov 2009 06:29:29 +0000 http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/?p=419#comment-529 Lots of thoughtful comments. Date nights aka spending "uninterrupted" (even when they are supposed to be in bed, we still get the odd "I can't get to sleep" etc etc) time together is so important isn't it?! We were lucky enough to have in-laws that lived closed by when we had our first baby....l really appreciated being able to walk hand in hand down the road for an hour or two - somehow someones holding something when your out and about with the baby!? Now we just make do with our weekly date nights at home. :-) Lots of thoughtful comments.
Date nights aka spending “uninterrupted” (even when they are supposed to be in bed, we still get the odd “I can’t get to sleep” etc etc) time together is so important isn’t it?!
We were lucky enough to have in-laws that lived closed by when we had our first baby….l really appreciated being able to walk hand in hand down the road for an hour or two – somehow someones holding something when your out and about with the baby!?
Now we just make do with our weekly date nights at home. :-)

]]> By: Kelly http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/2009/11/a-simple-guide-to-keeping-passion-in-your-marriage-while-kids-are-still-in-the-home/#comment-527 Kelly Sat, 14 Nov 2009 21:55:00 +0000 http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/?p=419#comment-527 I don't think all kids are ready to be left with other people from a young age. My kids were all about 3 or 4 before they were ready, and we have friends with children who are 6+ who are still working on making an overnight happen. We do a lot of date nights at home, since we don't have family closeby and can't afford a regular babysitter. ($10/hr!) It can be just as fun and romantic. When we do have family visiting or the opportunity to be alone we jump at it though. We had the pleasure of being able to go on our only vacation together since we've had children this past summer. It made me realize how much we need that time. I'm trying to make plans for another trip next year. I don’t think all kids are ready to be left with other people from a young age. My kids were all about 3 or 4 before they were ready, and we have friends with children who are 6+ who are still working on making an overnight happen.

We do a lot of date nights at home, since we don’t have family closeby and can’t afford a regular babysitter. ($10/hr!) It can be just as fun and romantic.

When we do have family visiting or the opportunity to be alone we jump at it though.

We had the pleasure of being able to go on our only vacation together since we’ve had children this past summer. It made me realize how much we need that time. I’m trying to make plans for another trip next year.

]]> By: hev http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/2009/11/a-simple-guide-to-keeping-passion-in-your-marriage-while-kids-are-still-in-the-home/#comment-525 hev Sat, 14 Nov 2009 14:35:04 +0000 http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/?p=419#comment-525 something Ive found too is the kids love it when dad just gives me a peck on the cheek or a quick hug,it shows love to the kids and its a good solid background for them to build upon,when they see that's it not a embarrassing thing to do as we were brought up to believe and its good to express your feelings even love. something Ive found too is the kids love it when dad just gives me a peck on the cheek or a quick hug,it shows love to the kids and its a good solid background for them to build upon,when they see that’s it not a embarrassing thing to do as we were brought up to believe and its good to express your feelings even love.

]]> By: Zengirl http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/2009/11/a-simple-guide-to-keeping-passion-in-your-marriage-while-kids-are-still-in-the-home/#comment-523 Zengirl Sat, 14 Nov 2009 02:39:46 +0000 http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/?p=419#comment-523 I would not want to leave my kids with anyone, maybe when they are bit older, both are 4 and under. We have alone time after kids go to sleep for night. It works for now. Will it work in future? Not sure, so far so good. I would not want to leave my kids with anyone, maybe when they are bit older, both are 4 and under. We have alone time after kids go to sleep for night. It works for now. Will it work in future? Not sure, so far so good.

]]> By: renee @ FIMBY http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/2009/11/a-simple-guide-to-keeping-passion-in-your-marriage-while-kids-are-still-in-the-home/#comment-522 renee @ FIMBY Fri, 13 Nov 2009 20:11:10 +0000 http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/?p=419#comment-522 Wow, I find all this "leave your kids with other people" kind of surprising. Not all of us live in communities with really close friends and or family. I have no family near me and would have to know a family inside out, upside down, round and round before my child could sleep there. I'd rather leave my diamond engagement ring and open safety deposit box before I'd leave my children. Our kids are the most precious gifts we are entrusted with and I feel the risk is too high for the benefit of one night alone. And without getting too personal, your kiddos don't need to be out the house in order to have some good lovin' (wink). Wow, I find all this “leave your kids with other people” kind of surprising. Not all of us live in communities with really close friends and or family. I have no family near me and would have to know a family inside out, upside down, round and round before my child could sleep there. I’d rather leave my diamond engagement ring and open safety deposit box before I’d leave my children. Our kids are the most precious gifts we are entrusted with and I feel the risk is too high for the benefit of one night alone. And without getting too personal, your kiddos don’t need to be out the house in order to have some good lovin’ (wink).

]]> By: Annabel Candy, Get In the Hot Spot http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/2009/11/a-simple-guide-to-keeping-passion-in-your-marriage-while-kids-are-still-in-the-home/#comment-521 Annabel Candy, Get In the Hot Spot Fri, 13 Nov 2009 11:10:15 +0000 http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/?p=419#comment-521 I recommend training your kids to have sleepovers from the age of 2 - or younger if you can find someone who'll have them! Great for the kid and life-changing for parents. It's perfectly normal to want time out from your kids from time to time. Schedule it, look forward to it and do it. Regularly:) I recommend training your kids to have sleepovers from the age of 2 – or younger if you can find someone who’ll have them! Great for the kid and life-changing for parents. It’s perfectly normal to want time out from your kids from time to time. Schedule it, look forward to it and do it. Regularly:)

]]> By: Stu Gray http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/2009/11/a-simple-guide-to-keeping-passion-in-your-marriage-while-kids-are-still-in-the-home/#comment-517 Stu Gray Thu, 12 Nov 2009 22:36:43 +0000 http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/?p=419#comment-517 Corey - Great post! Thanks for the thoughts. We are 'one of those couples' who haven't taken our kiddo over to Grandma's house to spend the night just yet. The two of us have gone back and forth on it - we go on date nights with them watching him, but this would make it a bit easier on us to not to have to wrap up the date to go pick him up! Corey –

Great post! Thanks for the thoughts.

We are ‘one of those couples’ who haven’t taken our kiddo over to Grandma’s house to spend the night just yet. The two of us have gone back and forth on it – we go on date nights with them watching him, but this would make it a bit easier on us to not to have to wrap up the date to go pick him up!

]]> By: Dustin | Engaged Marriage http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/2009/11/a-simple-guide-to-keeping-passion-in-your-marriage-while-kids-are-still-in-the-home/#comment-516 Dustin | Engaged Marriage Thu, 12 Nov 2009 19:51:33 +0000 http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/?p=419#comment-516 I love it! I totally agree that the number one priority in our households must be our marriage and serving our spouse well. When the marriage (including the sex life) is healthy, the children absolutely benefit. Thank you for sharing some good, practical ways to keep the intimacy alive when the little ones are around! I love it! I totally agree that the number one priority in our households must be our marriage and serving our spouse well. When the marriage (including the sex life) is healthy, the children absolutely benefit. Thank you for sharing some good, practical ways to keep the intimacy alive when the little ones are around!

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