Comments on: That’s The Way It’s Always Been http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/2009/12/thats-the-way-its-always-been/ Simple Happiness Wed, 08 Sep 2010 22:59:20 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Sherri Kruger http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/2009/12/thats-the-way-its-always-been/#comment-696 Sherri Kruger Sat, 12 Dec 2009 21:15:26 +0000 http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/?p=535#comment-696 Hi P, Thank you for taking the time to leave a comment on our site. It was not my intent to offend you or anyone in anyway by publishing this article and if I have I apologize. I think what Corey writes is merely a story used to illustrate how we can become stuck in routines, not because they necessarily make us happy, but because "that's the way it's always been done". We sometimes need a nudge to question why we're even doing what we're doing. I've looked for a reference to a scientific article outlining this study and I haven't found one yet, which is why I believe that this particular story is just that, a story. I hope you are able to take away the message that Corey was trying to get across in this article even if the story used to illustrate it didn't sit well with you. Sincerely, Sherri Hi P,

Thank you for taking the time to leave a comment on our site. It was not my intent to offend you or anyone in anyway by publishing this article and if I have I apologize.

I think what Corey writes is merely a story used to illustrate how we can become stuck in routines, not because they necessarily make us happy, but because “that’s the way it’s always been done”. We sometimes need a nudge to question why we’re even doing what we’re doing.

I’ve looked for a reference to a scientific article outlining this study and I haven’t found one yet, which is why I believe that this particular story is just that, a story. I hope you are able to take away the message that Corey was trying to get across in this article even if the story used to illustrate it didn’t sit well with you.

Sincerely,
Sherri

]]> By: P http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/2009/12/thats-the-way-its-always-been/#comment-693 P Sat, 12 Dec 2009 07:43:43 +0000 http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/?p=535#comment-693 I am sorry, i found this example truly disturbing about the poor tortured monkeys. We as a human, I am not surprised we would do same thing to other humans in same cage and same experiment. I am sorry, i found this example truly disturbing about the poor tortured monkeys.
We as a human, I am not surprised we would do same thing to other humans in same cage and same experiment.

]]> By: Joshua http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/2009/12/thats-the-way-its-always-been/#comment-692 Joshua Sat, 12 Dec 2009 06:23:21 +0000 http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/?p=535#comment-692 Great article. Great example. I've been trying to break from routine for awhile now, but every time I do I quickly find myself, somehow, sucked back into the same routine I just broke out of. Society has a funny way of making me feel like I need to do this or that when what I really need to do is listen to my mind and body. They tell me what I need to do, but I often choose not to listen to them because it goes against my routine or it's hard. Mixing things up can be very rewarding, but so can a little bit of order or "routine". Too much chaos can be disruptive for one cannot find purpose. I suppose that is why we must find balance in everything we do. Great article. Great example. I’ve been trying to break from routine for awhile now, but every time I do I quickly find myself, somehow, sucked back into the same routine I just broke out of. Society has a funny way of making me feel like I need to do this or that when what I really need to do is listen to my mind and body. They tell me what I need to do, but I often choose not to listen to them because it goes against my routine or it’s hard. Mixing things up can be very rewarding, but so can a little bit of order or “routine”. Too much chaos can be disruptive for one cannot find purpose. I suppose that is why we must find balance in everything we do.

]]> By: Jason of Kim & Jason http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/2009/12/thats-the-way-its-always-been/#comment-690 Jason of Kim & Jason Fri, 11 Dec 2009 21:01:38 +0000 http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/?p=535#comment-690 I like to call these "rules that don't exist." Sometimes we can get so programmed by our parents, teachers, society, the media, whoever, that we stop asking questions like, "Why do we do things this way?" When the answer comes back, "Because weve always done them this way" you know you're on to something. I like to call these “rules that don’t exist.” Sometimes we can get so programmed by our parents, teachers, society, the media, whoever, that we stop asking questions like, “Why do we do things this way?”

When the answer comes back, “Because weve always done them this way” you know you’re on to something.

]]> By: Bernadette http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/2009/12/thats-the-way-its-always-been/#comment-688 Bernadette Fri, 11 Dec 2009 17:29:24 +0000 http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/?p=535#comment-688 That's a wonderful comment. I know that when I'm "in the moment" with our son I learn how to get back to simple pleasures. As an adult, we layer our lives with so much productivity that we forget that in rushing towards a goal, we miss life. That’s a wonderful comment. I know that when I’m “in the moment” with our son I learn how to get back to simple pleasures. As an adult, we layer our lives with so much productivity that we forget that in rushing towards a goal, we miss life.

]]> By: Dustin | Engaged Marriage http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/2009/12/thats-the-way-its-always-been/#comment-687 Dustin | Engaged Marriage Fri, 11 Dec 2009 03:12:50 +0000 http://www.zenfamilyhabits.net/?p=535#comment-687 I love this example of how we can become creatures of habit, even to a fault. I totally agree that a healthy marriage and family life requires some "spice" and some activity that gives us a new perspective. I have found that if we let our kids decide what we should do for the afternoon, we'll often break our routine and do something a big crazy...and very rewarding! I love this example of how we can become creatures of habit, even to a fault. I totally agree that a healthy marriage and family life requires some “spice” and some activity that gives us a new perspective. I have found that if we let our kids decide what we should do for the afternoon, we’ll often break our routine and do something a big crazy…and very rewarding!

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