Dear Mom, Thank-You

Post written by Sherri Kruger. Follow me on Twitter.

Whether you’re a parent or not you’ll likely have heard people say “oh they grow up so fast”.

I used to think “yeah I imagine time does go by pretty quickly”.

Now that I’m a mom I believe it because I live it. The days sometimes drag but the months and years zip by. My eldest son started nursery school a couple of weeks ago which left me in a state of shock. Before I know it he will be in kindergarten, school full time, graduating, getting married and soon enough I may even be a Grannie.

You may think “slow down you’re getting ahead of yourself”, but how often do you say even to yourself “I’m how old?”

Life is short. Time slips away if we’re not careful. Living in the present moment as much as possible allows us to become attuned to the little things and appreciate the beauty in any given moment. It’s easy to get caught up in daily routines and focus more on the outcome than the journey.

When it comes to living the life you want some folks tell you to think about your funeral and what you would like people to say about you. When it comes to being the type of parent you want to be you can take a similar approach. Instead of thinking about your funeral think about what your children will thank you for when they’re older.

As an exercise try writing a thank-you note from your children years in the future. What would you like them to thank you for? What do you want your legacy to be for your kids?

What I would like my thank-you note to look like

Dear Mom,

Thank you:

  • for always being there.
  • for at least trying to understand where I’m coming from and for listening to me without judgment.
  • for allowing me to make mistakes and helping me deal with the consequences.
  • for teaching me to tell the truth even when the consequences may seem more than I can handle.
  • for teaching me to be kind, loving, generous and polite.
  • for teaching me to be respectful towards others while standing up for what I believe in and staying true to myself.
  • for teaching me to question things and to solve problems on my own.
  • for making me feel loved and showing me that the best gifts can not be bought.
  • for teaching me the value of money and the importance of budgeting.
  • for allowing me to be a kid, to explore, and to just have fun.
  • for showing me it’s okay to be wrong or not have all the answers. Nobody knows everything about everything.
  • for teaching me that happiness is a choice.
  • for showing me you’re not perfect and even the best make mistakes ;)

Love always,
E and J xo

There are three things that will help ensure you are deserving of a heart felt thank you note from your children one day:

  1. Being aware. Give some thought as to what would be on your “thank-you list”. There are many things that can make you stand out as a phenomenal parent but it’s harder to do these things when they count if you haven’t thought about them before. It’s a daily challenge to align your actions with the type of parent you aim to be. Take some time to think about how you will feel when you are your ideal parent.
  2. Keeping it at the forefront of your mind. This can be really simple if you take the time to write it out. Carry your thank-you note in your pocket, purse or wallet. Put it on your bedside table, stick it on your bathroom mirror, or post it on the fridge or in your closet. Begin each day by reading your thank-you so your purpose is fresh in your mind. Think about what activities you can do during your day to get you closer to achieving your ideal parent status.
  3. Taking responsibility. You are the only one that can make this happen. No one is able to do this role for you. Concentrate on what you want to achieve and the things or people that can help you get there. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

Writing this thank-you note isn’t particularly difficult but I think it’s an important exercise. It will hopefully get you thinking about the kind of relationship you want to establish with your kids, what kind of parent you want to be and to realize that your happiness and fulfillment in all of this is in your hands.

18 Responses to “Dear Mom, Thank-You”

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  1. Wonderful reminders – I am in the same season as you (with a preschooler as well as a toddler) and the milestones are becoming more and more significant with full time school and orginized sports on the horizon for sure!

    I’ve recently been mindful of how thankful I am for my own sweet mama and what a wonderful example she provided of being a ‘present’ parent. I have made efforts to thank her directly in notes and cards over recent years as I am living the role that she provided for me all those years ago. I really understand her efforts and appreciate them even now in a totally new way. I hope my children can say the same of me in the future.

  2. This post was very touching. I really enjoyed reading your thank you note. Thank you for sharing it. I think it is a great exercise, and it has me thinking. My eldest entered pre-school recently as well, and your feelings ring true for me as well. Have a good day!

  3. Lynn Frend says:

    Excellent reminder. Might just have to sit down later this evening and write out a nice thank you to myself. And one to my own mother might not be out of line too!

  4. Vina says:

    Sherri,

    Thank you so much for this post! Your words resonate so well with me. This inspired me to write my own letter to my child. Keep writing.

  5. Llynde says:

    As a mother and Grandmother – how wonderful it would be to receive such a letter! I am sure you will receive many such letters from E &J during their growing up years!

  6. SaritaPagita says:

    Thank you for this. What fantastic parenting advice that I feel in my heart is worth embracing.

  7. Brandi says:

    This is awesome advice. I have a one-year old and another on the way and I’m blown away by how fast the time has flown by (already). I often question my parenting abilities, but in the end I always do what’s right to me. I may be a little bit more strict that I thought I would be as a parent, but because of that I get told constantly how good my son is when I take him anywhere. And I take him everywhere with me…restaurants, friends houses, long trips, etc.

    I will definitely take this advice to heart. It makes me think of all the stuff MY mom has done for me.

  8. Zengirl says:

    I appreciated my mom (much more) after I had my first child, true. My mother and I were close but I really felt I understood her, why she was still calling me from east coast to remind me to wear socks because it was cold in california. :-) I get it now. I put on sweater on my child, when I feel cold too. Things we do and feel as a parent!

  9. Amy says:

    Love this – an excellent reminder to stop and smell the roses. I am printing this out now!! Also sharing on my web site, The PranaMama. Thanks for all of your excellent advice on how to like a meaningful life with family in mind.

  10. Sue Atkins says:

    What a wonderful post – so many of us take our children for granted so this is such a simple and lovely way to just help us STOP…. pause…. and be enormously grateful – I must pass this idea on to the parents that I work with.
    Thank you :)

  11. Reza says:

    Great article, it’s always nice to tell mom “I love you”.

    I wanted to do the same thing for my mom and I made a website so anyone can do it too. See how it started here: http://tomomfrom.me/1db2c700.html

  12. sanjana says:

    It was awesome and really heart touching. It is a wonderful remainder…….. nice…….

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