Post written by Sherri Kruger. Follow me on Twitter.
Whether you’re a parent or not you’ll likely have heard people say “oh they grow up so fast”.
I used to think “yeah I imagine time does go by pretty quickly”.
Now that I’m a mom I believe it because I live it. The days sometimes drag but the months and years zip by. My eldest son started nursery school a couple of weeks ago which left me in a state of shock. Before I know it he will be in kindergarten, school full time, graduating, getting married and soon enough I may even be a Grannie.
You may think “slow down you’re getting ahead of yourself”, but how often do you say even to yourself “I’m how old?”
Life is short. Time slips away if we’re not careful. Living in the present moment as much as possible allows us to become attuned to the little things and appreciate the beauty in any given moment. It’s easy to get caught up in daily routines and focus more on the outcome than the journey.
When it comes to living the life you want some folks tell you to think about your funeral and what you would like people to say about you. When it comes to being the type of parent you want to be you can take a similar approach. Instead of thinking about your funeral think about what your children will thank you for when they’re older.
As an exercise try writing a thank-you note from your children years in the future. What would you like them to thank you for? What do you want your legacy to be for your kids?
What I would like my thank-you note to look like
- for always being there.
- for at least trying to understand where I’m coming from and for listening to me without judgment.
- for allowing me to make mistakes and helping me deal with the consequences.
- for teaching me to tell the truth even when the consequences may seem more than I can handle.
- for teaching me to be kind, loving, generous and polite.
- for teaching me to be respectful towards others while standing up for what I believe in and staying true to myself.
- for teaching me to question things and to solve problems on my own.
- for making me feel loved and showing me that the best gifts can not be bought.
- for teaching me the value of money and the importance of budgeting.
- for allowing me to be a kid, to explore, and to just have fun.
- for showing me it’s okay to be wrong or not have all the answers. Nobody knows everything about everything.
- for teaching me that happiness is a choice.
- for showing me you’re not perfect and even the best make mistakes ;)
E and J xo
There are three things that will help ensure you are deserving of a heart felt thank you note from your children one day:
- Being aware. Give some thought as to what would be on your “thank-you list”. There are many things that can make you stand out as a phenomenal parent but it’s harder to do these things when they count if you haven’t thought about them before. It’s a daily challenge to align your actions with the type of parent you aim to be. Take some time to think about how you will feel when you are your ideal parent.
- Keeping it at the forefront of your mind. This can be really simple if you take the time to write it out. Carry your thank-you note in your pocket, purse or wallet. Put it on your bedside table, stick it on your bathroom mirror, or post it on the fridge or in your closet. Begin each day by reading your thank-you so your purpose is fresh in your mind. Think about what activities you can do during your day to get you closer to achieving your ideal parent status.
- Taking responsibility. You are the only one that can make this happen. No one is able to do this role for you. Concentrate on what you want to achieve and the things or people that can help you get there. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Writing this thank-you note isn’t particularly difficult but I think it’s an important exercise. It will hopefully get you thinking about the kind of relationship you want to establish with your kids, what kind of parent you want to be and to realize that your happiness and fulfillment in all of this is in your hands.