Comments on: Two Vital Elements for a Peaceful Household

By: Lisis

Lisis — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 16:12:43 +0000

Thanks, Tess! I don’t know if you’ve ever watched to show Super Nanny… but I used to watch it all the time. One thing I noticed was that week after week, family after family, no matter how “terrible” the kids were, her solution was always to train the parents! When the parents knew how to behave (and handle issues) the kids fell right in line… every time. Hmm…. ;)

By: Tess The Bold Life

Tess The Bold Life — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 22:54:16 +0000

Amen! I couldn’t have said these things better myself. I was truly clueless as a young parent. My first session in therapy I was informed that my children were causing my problems. I was causing my problems. Thanks God I went, I learned and I put into practice. Thanks for a well needed post.

By: Lisis

Lisis — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 12:31:59 +0000

@ Hayden: That’s exactly right… sometimes we get lazy, or try to “win them over” one time by giving in when we know we shouldn’t. I guess we think it’s like, “I’ll scratch your back now, you cooperate with me later.” But it doesn’t work that way with kids, since they live for each moment and conveniently forget those sorts of arrangements. Every moment is about how they can get what they want… it’s the childhood singularity, really… the black hole of self-driven intentions that sucks all our energy! ;)

@ Stacey: You are welcome, and I’m so glad you found that poem Christopher mentioned, because it is amazing (as is Christopher!). I’m going to check out your post now. Thanks for your comment!

By: Stacey

Stacey — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 00:31:58 +0000

Thank you so much for this timely reminder. A BIG thank you to Christopher for mentioning the Father Forgets letter….reading that was a lightbulb moment for me and inspired me to write my latest post on my blog Sunny Mummy.

I have mentioned my fave blog, Zen family habits and would be honoured if you would all stop by?
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http://sunnymummyaus.blogspot.com/2010/01/father-forgets-and-mummy-does-too.html

By: Hayden Tompkins

Hayden Tompkins — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 16:50:32 +0000

Consistency is KEY to creating a peaceful home. Parents think that it’ll be easier ‘this time’ if they just cave in to their kids but it really causes more problems in the long wrong. If children feel like you are not a strong foundation, they will keep pushing your buttons.

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By: Lisis

Lisis — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 18:53:45 +0000

Hey, Dustin! Totally agreed… it has gotten especially tough to keep a calm and patient demeanor with our busy and chaotic lifestyles, which is one of the reasons kids seem to be even more chaotic than usual. But I think it’s worth it for everyone involved for us to make a great effort to take it all down a notch. Like you said, not easy, but worth it! :)

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By: Dustin | Engaged Marriage

Dustin | Engaged Marriage — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 19:15:24 +0000

I totally agree that a peaceful, and well-run, household begins with the example and tone that the parents set. Of course, this can be tough with the busyness and stress of everyday life. However, even though it’s not easy, it is worth it.

By: Lisis

Lisis — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 13:36:42 +0000

Very true, Greg… I don’t know if I ever knew real peace until my son came along. :)