How can we define family values? We have been taught in our homes that family values are rules in which we all agree to live and live together in the best way.
In order to have a strong and united family, it is necessary to have well defined family values, since these help to solidify the foundations and build trust in each member of the family.
It is true that each family has different priorities in its values, but here I share some 10 essential values.
- Belonging: each member of the family must feel loved, that they belong and that they are important. A strong family accepts each member’s differences and gives them their place. The creation of a family unit is important, but we must always remember that we must give each person their individual space, because we are all different. In general, people are willing to take risks and explore new borders when they know they have a safe place to go back if things don’t work out as planned. To create this sense of belonging it is important to meet on special occasions, holidays and especially, to spend time together.
- Respect: Respect is knowing how to recognize and value the thoughts of everyone, the feelings and contributions of each member of the family. Respect must be won and we must not cross the fine line between respect and fear. It is also very important to respect oneself, because if we do not, how do we expect someone else to respect us?
- Sorry: forgiving people who have wronged you is an important decision to make. This is not a feeling that takes hold of you at random when you feel that the other person has “suffered” enough. This can be difficult as many of us tend to equate forgiveness to saying what you did was right. Let us remember that we all make mistakes, all from time to time we say things we do not want.
- Honesty: honesty is the fundamental value of all relationships that are meant to last. Without honesty it is not possible to form a deep connection with people. Foster honesty, practicing understanding, respect and giving space to all members of the family to give their opinions and share their experiences.
- Generosity: giving without thinking is one of the most important values in any human being that contributes to society. Through generosity we build empathy as we think more about what other people need. However, being generous does not just mean donating money, it can also include managing your time, love or attention.
- Communication: communication is key in the family and in all human relationships. Lack of communication can lead to unhappiness and misunderstandings. Small problems can become avalanches when we don’t communicate efficiently.
addition to spoken words, communication also extends to tone, volume, expression, listening to visual contact, body language and effectiveness. We could say that communication is the most important value of families because when people feel they can speak openly about anything – hopes, dreams, fears, successes and failures – all without judgment, it is encouraging and strengthens the bond.
- Traditions: traditions are what make a unique family. Traditions don’t have to be expensive, elaborate or hard-working. It can be something as simple as a lazy Saturday morning drinking coffee and chatting or an annual dinner to receive the New Year. If you don’t currently have family traditions, believe them.