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By: Sherri Kruger

Sherri Kruger — Sat, 20 Mar 2010 01:33:11 +0000

LOL Jasi. Funny you should ask that today of all days. I took my two boys to the grocery store only to have my eldest break down into an absolute screaming fit because he couldn’t hold the cinnamon rolls when it was time to check out. Oh the drama!

I think it’s largely a phase. I never condoned it and always told him it wasn’t appropriate to scream and to use his words (even though he was just starting to speak). I think a lot of it stems from the frustration they feel with not being able to communicate and get their thoughts across. I’ve been told they do eventually stop the high pitched screech at some point altogether. I just haven’t quite got there yet apparently. :)

By: Jasi

Jasi — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 23:58:12 +0000

So, you mind filling me in on how you accomplished the first bit about screaming?

You’re absolutely right though. That kind of thinking is destructive in any facet of our lives. And can I say that I dislike “good enough”, too?

By: Kristy

Kristy — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 21:47:30 +0000

Good reminder for us perfection-striving, take it way too seriously, over-doing it all types. (Not that I know anything about THAT) :)

By: Maggie

Maggie — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 19:49:42 +0000

My mother recently commented that she felt bad for parents of the new millenium, because there’s so much emphasis on “parenting”. She said that when I was young, she just raised her kids, did her best and that was that. She got down on the floor and played sometimes, we watched TV sometimes, we went outside sometimes, and we were towed to the grocery store to get groceries and to the local department store for some new shampoo. Life was about family, hard work and love. And we knew that we were loved and cared for….because we were. Not because our parents obsessed about parenting right, but because they just loved us.

By: Hyungon Kim

Hyungon Kim — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 01:22:41 +0000

Thank you for your column.
Sometime I feel that I am a BAD father. I have two kid 5-year-old boy and 2-year-old girl. I think I should have to spend more time with my kids but it is not easy for me to take times during weekdays. Everytime I go back home, watching they sleeping, I think some things are going wrong. For this reason, sometimes I arugued with my wife.
From now on, I have to see the bright side. Even though I cannot spend more times with my kids than other fathers, when I’m with them, I have to be the best father in the world.
P.S If there were something wrong with my English. It is because I’m Korean.

Many Thanks

By: Anastasiya

Anastasiya — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 22:01:48 +0000

Thank you for this article Sherrie.
Sometimes I find myself doubting whether I am doing a good enough job as a mother. The biggest challenge for me is giving equal amounts of attention to both of my twin girls. Sometimes I also doubt myself as a mother because my girls are a little bit behind the rest of the children (they do not speak yet even though they are 2 years old.)
When I have those doubts I look at them and I see two happy smiling girls who love playing outside, who are healthy and who interact with each other and with people around them. When I see smiles on their faces I understand that I am doing the most important thing right – I am raising HAPPY children.

By: Lain

Lain — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 19:29:34 +0000

We can be so hard on ourselves! Not every parent has the same strengths. For instance, I’m great at school projects and celebrating the little things everyday. I’m horrible at playdates and getting down on the floor to play Barbies! But I’ll read story after story all night long. :)

Reading Seth Godin’s book, Linchpin, reminded me that I can be as much of an “artist mom” as those natural-born mothers who seem to be hard-wired for parenthood. I wrote a post about it here, called “Seth Godin on the Art of Motherhood.”

http://tinyurl.com/godinmom

By: Alex Blackwell

Alex Blackwell — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 11:52:49 +0000

I have often said my children did not come with an instruction manual! Even without that important resource, my wife and I used basic ideas to raise our children: love, patience, acceptance and tough love when needed.

Parenting is one of the toughest things we do, but the rewards are simply amazing.