The Simple Guide for Prepping for a Family Move


Simplify, and making moving day fun.

Post written by Leo Babauta. Follow me on twitter or identica.

Eva and I and our six kids are moving in a couple months to San Francisco, from our tiny little island of Guam, and as with any move, it’s both nerve-wracking and exciting as hell.

The key to making it more exciting than anxiety inducing is, of course, preparation.

However, unlike most people who are uber-organized (I’m one of them), I’m not attacking our move with a variety of moving checklists and a crapload of things to do before we leave.

I’m moving the minimalist’s way: packing as light as possible, and doing as little as I can. It’s lovely.

A Minimalist Strategy

When Eva and I first started planning our big move, last year, we were planning on packing up all our stuff and finding a moving company to ship over all our furniture. It was a massive project, and though we didn’t relish it, it did seem necessary.

After all, we’d spent a lot of money on our furniture and computers and clothes and toys, so why wouldn’t we take it all? But then we realized: there was no use in being attached to it all. Sure, it was nice stuff (we go for quality over quantity), but it’s nothing we can’t find elsewhere, and it’s just … stuff.

We realized we needed nothing, really. Nothing was sacred.

So here’s the strategy Eva and I came up with:

  1. Sell everything. We’re using a site we created just for this purpose — to sell all our stuff. We took pictures and posted descriptions, along with the asking price for each item. More below.
  2. Pack only a few days worth of clothes and our laptop. Our clothes are all for tropical climes anyway, so we’ll get what we need for the foggy San Francisco weather when we get there. More below.
  3. Get a list of apartments via Craigslist, and find a place when we get there. Cash in hand, ready to rent. More on this below.
  4. Buy used. Our goal is to buy used clothes and furniture, in most cases, as often as we can. That way we’re not wasting a huge amount of resources by restocking.
  5. Give the kids a box each. OK, so “sell everything” was a slight exaggeration. We’re letting the kids pack one box of stuff each. We’ll have a family member mail the boxes to us after we settle in to a new place.

So we’ll be flying to SFO with a backpack of clothes each, and a laptop. Leaving everything else behind.

The Online Yardsale

We set up a simple site on WordPress.com, paying less than $10 for the domain name wowayardsale.com. Then we took pictures of most of our stuff, posted them via WordPress (which as most bloggers know is pretty easy) along with descriptions and our asking price.

Then we emailed the link to all our friends and family, and voila! A yardsale without a yard.

The response so far has been good. In just a few days, we’ve sold half the stuff that’s been posted, and we still have 70 days left. I expect everything to be sold in the next month or so. Whatever’s left will be donated or given away or perhaps we’ll have an actual yardsale if necessary.

Minimal Shipping

Our idea is to ship as little as possible. Many people moving from Guam will pay for space in a shipping container for all of their stuff — including their car(s) sometimes. We don’t want to go through all of that hassle.

So we’ll have one box each that a relative will mail over after we’ve settled in. This will mostly be personal possessions — photo albums, little things the kids just can’t part with.

Other than that, we’ll have a few days’ worth of clothes each, and a laptop. We’re not bringing a lot of clothes, not our TV or most of our computers, not our books or accumulated memorabilia.

We don’t have a lof of stuff anyway, but it’s impossible for a family of eight not to have some possessions after all these years. We’re going to purge almost all of it, and it’s quite liberating.

Necessary Documents

Other than a few days’ worth of clothes, we’re making sure we’ve prepared a few essential documents:

  • Passports
  • Birth Certificates & Marriage License
  • Social Security cards
  • Medical & dental records
  • Credit report, landlord letters of recommendation, & bank statements (for lease applications)

Essential Research Tools

The beauty of moving these days is that there is SO much online, and so many cool tools for checking out far-off places. Seriously, there’s some amazing stuff out there — just 10 years ago, you couldn’t do any of this.

I’ve done a lot of research about San Francisco, just to feel more prepared and of course because I’m so excited about the move. One of the best things I did is put everything I want to live near or check out on one Google Map, so I can see clusters of things in different SF neighborhoods. It helps me to visualize where I want to live and whether a potential house/apartment is in a good location.

Some tools I’ve been using for my research — this stuff blows me away:

  1. Google Maps: If you have a Google account, you can sign in and create your own Google Map. I’ve done this for past trips (to Thailand, Hawaii, and Japan) and it worked great. If I find something in an article or guidebook that looks interesting, I’ll create a marker for it on my Google Map, usually changing the icon to reflect the type of place (restaurant, coffee shop, museum, shopping outlet, etc.). For our move to SF, I created a map that has dozens of places — vegetarian restaurants, libraries, museums, shops, parks, book stores, movie theaters, places to run, coffee shops, and so on. The map is really full, but it’s a great way to visualize the city, especially because we don’t plan to own a car, and want to live within walking distance of many of these places.
  2. Google streetview: This is actually just a feature of Google Maps, but it’s a wonderful tool for someone who’s moving. Basically, if there’s an apartment on Craigslist (see next item), I can find it on Google Maps, and then go into “streetview” to see the actual house/apartment, and the street it’s on. Then I use streetview to walk around the neighborhood and get a feel for the place. Not as good as being there, but way closer than ever before.
  3. Craigslist: What an amazing tool for people who are moving. It has dozens of listings every day for apartments/houses for rent, many with photos and other relevant info, along with a link to the apartment’s location on Google Maps. You can even search by neighborhood and number of bedrooms/bathrooms, which I do. In fact, I save my frequent searches by bookmarking them in my browser, so each day I can open up all those bookmarked searches to see what’s new. Craigslist also has sections for used items, such as furniture and appliances, so you can buy stuff that you’ll need when you do move. I haven’t actually bought anything yet, but I’ve been checking out the used section to see what’s out there.
  4. Yelp: Another amazing tool. It’s not a secret, of course, but if you’re moving, you can search for restaurants, coffee shops, bike shops, movie theaters, bookstores, and more, and read reviews. I’ll find the top vegetarian restaurants in a neighborhood (for example), and then add them to my Google Map.
  5. Google Docs: I created one Google Doc for all my moving plans, and a Google spreadsheet for my budget. The doc, which I’ve shared with my wife Eva, of course, has everything we need to do (not a lot), along with info such as flight information and so forth. It’s a good way to keep all your data together, accessible from anywhere.
  6. Local blogs: It’s astounding how many blogs there are out there for any city you’re interested in — in San Francisco, I’ve found local blogs on homeschooling, cycling, running, vegan, locavore, and more. I’ll usually do a Google search for “San Francisco homeschooling” or whatever the topic is, and then open up a bunch of the posts that I find, and check out those blogs. Then I’ll see what blogs those blogs link to, and check those out, and so on, until I’ve found a bunch of great blogs. I’ll dig into each blog’s archives and find a wealth of info. There are even blogs about particular neighborhoods. Wonderful resource.
  7. YouTube: Again, not a secret tool, but one that has valuable info on any city. I’ve found YouTube videos showing different SF neighborhoods, along with video tours of some of the apartments I’m interested in, and of course videos of some of the best sights of the city.
  8. Walkscore: Brilliant tool, not merely for getting the “walk score” of a neighborhood (basically how close a location is to things people are likely to need/use), but for finding important businesses in each neighborhood. So I’ll click on a neighborhood on the Walkscore site, and then it’ll give me a list of all the movie theaters, restaurants, coffee shops, bookstores, libraries, mass transit stops, and so on. I’ll find the good ones and add them to my all-powerful Google Map.

This all sounds like a lot of work, I’m sure. But it’s not — it’s a lot of fun. I like to feel prepared, and while I could move without doing any of this research, I’m going to be much more ready to hit the ground running once I arrive in San Francisco. And I’ll make a much more informed choice about where to live.

I hope this guide has helped!

Read more from Leo at Zen Habits and mnmlist. Or check out his ebook, The Simple Guide to a Minimalist Life.

20 brilliant commentsadd a comment

Jackie Pettus April 19, 2010 at 11:15 am

You are an amazing human being, and so are your family members, for being able to live this minimalist lifestyle. Have you written a book on the subject I could give to the rest of my family? Our home is bursting at the seams with collections and possessions. We had to rent a public storage space to store (mostly) my grown childrens’ things while they are out of the country. Our basement “workroom” contains not only my husband’s tools, but the ones he inherited from his father, even though he hasn’t touched a hammer or a screwdriver in years.

I love the Walkscore.com site you mentioned. My son is just back from his second deployment to Iraq and looking for an apartment in San Francisco close enough to his office that he can walk.

I’ll be interested to know which neighborhood in San Francisco you end up in. Most are very family-friendly, but we love Presidio Heights. It’s safe and close to parks, conveniences, transit, etc.. Feel free to contact me with any SF questions you might have before you arrive. My husband and I are both “natives.”

Tamra Theford April 19, 2010 at 12:25 pm

What an amazing article. First of all greetings to you over on Guam– i lived there from 1984 to 1990 and loved it– went back for my honeymoon in 2000 and still have many friends from the island– some still there, the rest on the West Coast.

I like both your research, organizational and minimalist approach to moving. As a military child i have moved many times in my life and i think your tips are great– plus it’s amazing how technology can help you get “settled” even before you get there. Good luck and hope to read more about the actual move after you get there!

Wendy Irene April 19, 2010 at 1:58 pm

I love your ability to open my mind to new ideas and thoughts. I NEVER would have thought of doing this, but LOVE the idea of starting over. Using your thinking and applying it to what makes sense for my life is a lot of fun! Have a great move to an amazing city!

Lydia April 19, 2010 at 2:17 pm

I just recently relocated to SF for my husbands job. We were trying to find a balance between being close to the office and rent costs. You should check out a cute little community called Brisbane. You can get more house for your buck and it only takes my husband 20 minutes from door to door. That was closer than some places we were looking at in the City. It has a small town feel, but you are close to everything to big city has to offer.
You should also check out the book “Newcomer’s Handbook for Moving to San Francisco and the Bay Area” It has everything you will need to know about the area- Including which neighborhoods to avoid.
Good Luck!

Suzannah-Write It Sideways April 19, 2010 at 2:22 pm

I needed this so much. I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what a huge logistical nightmare it would be to pack up and move from Australia back home to Canada some time in the future. It’s crossed my mind that if the time comes, we should do what your family is doing–basically sell everything that’s non-essential and only ship the highly personal items we would really regret leaving.

Shipping things internationally is so costly, you probably end up paying for the value of the items all over again. If there’s no sentimental value, you’re better off just buying new/used ones when you get there.

When we moved here initially, we shipped a bunch of stuff, and some if it hasn’t even been used (we’ve been here 3 years). I wouldn’t bother, if I had to do it all over again.

Thank you for this, and all the best for your move!

Jackie April 19, 2010 at 3:14 pm

Welcome to foggy SF – and in June, you can expect that the weather will be foggy. Good luck on your move and your search for a place to live. I’m hoping you move into the rental house down the street from me so that my kids will instantly have 6 new friends to play with! We’re in a quiet residential neighborhood that is great for young families, but not as expensive as some other up and coming areas. am always inspired by your posts to reduce the amount of stuff we all have.

Zengirl @ happy heart and mind April 19, 2010 at 4:03 pm

Leo,

You are moving closer to us, I too live in sf bay area (actually suburb), SF is has lot of great things to do, and there are lot of resources for home schooled kids as well (I know, I am one of them), you have lived here before you know things anyways. wishing you seamless move and I am sure Eva, kids and you will enjoy the place. There is newly renovated California science academy which kids will enjoy and has lot of eco themed activities. Best wishes.

Kika April 19, 2010 at 5:06 pm

Two of my sisters lived for years in England (7ys and 17ys) and when they wanted to return to Canada they shipped boxes and boxes of stuff – no furniture. They’ve both told me that they could have done without most of it. What a great approach you are taking. Are you letting the kids take a couple treasures (ex. favorite toys) in their backpacks? This could help them feel more settled during the move while awaiting their box of favorite belongings.

Leo Babauta April 19, 2010 at 6:15 pm

Thanks for the nice comments, everyone!

@Kika: Yes, the kids can take a few toys in their backpacks, and then one box of possessions each that we’ll mail later. We don’t want to make them feel totally deprived. :)

Mav Hankey April 19, 2010 at 7:13 pm

Having done a move from Toronto Canada to the lovely South, your advice and set up is sound and freeing. Best wishes for a good trip and I look forward to hearing about your arrival in San Fran.

Rae April 19, 2010 at 7:14 pm

Hi Leo! I’ve been reading your blogs about Zen habits. I’d like to live a minimalist life but sort of a pack-rat by nature. Incidentally, I work for a SFO Bay Area Real Estate Investor. We can help you find a nice home for your family of 8 without any broker fees. =) Please feel free to email me on your housing requirements. All the best!

Lamont Cranston April 19, 2010 at 9:51 pm

Your kids will probably be shocked by how cold it is in SF in the summer. But warmth and sunshine in the East Bay are only 20-30 minutes away via BART.

Marci April 20, 2010 at 8:05 am

What an excellent article Leo! I am moving from NH to NC in the next few months and this post has really inspired me. During the past year I’ve drastically reduced my belongings and really taken minimalism seriously. I don’t know if I can move totally minimalist as you are, but I truly admire your detachment from physical “stuff”.

As I am packing boxes and getting rid of things in the next few weeks I’ll try to really weed out the things I can live without. Thank you for the motivation and I send you my best wishes on your family move to SF!

mark owen-ward April 20, 2010 at 9:22 am

Leo I read your 3 wonderful blogs and love mnmlist.com especially – your move gives such a brilliant opportunity to put everything you write about and believe in into practice in one (BIG) go. Will we all get to read about your chance to effectively start again as a minimalist with a blank sheet?

I hugely admire what you do and write about – you are a daily inspiration to so many of use around the world – I’m a fully paid up member of the minimalist club and continue to sell/give away my stuff – it is so liberating. Thanks for being who you are and good luck with your move!

Annabel Candy, Get In the Hot Spot April 20, 2010 at 10:19 pm

Getting near now. It’s exciting! Bon voyage to the Babauta family:)

paurullan April 21, 2010 at 5:23 am

Great post! Thanks for the insight.

grace April 21, 2010 at 4:34 pm

For years my husband and I had discussed that we would approach our retirement move this very way. Tragically, in Jan. he was killed on the job. Once my sophmore graduates H.S. and moves on to college, I have decided I will make the move without him. I have always been somewhat of a minimalist so I’m hoping that I will have the courage. I will approach it in steps over the next 2 years shedding The tools and furnishings we have accumulated to maintain the home he loved so much. My concern is that my daughter will see it as leaving him behind when it is a move toward the future and it’s possibilities.

Pär Wiger April 27, 2010 at 11:35 pm

Hi Leo. Thanks for sharing and congrats on your decision to move. SF is a fantastic city!

Having just gone through the process myself, I just feel this urge to reassure you that you have nothing to worry about and that you’re in for a great experience. Yes, you do beat me on the number of kids – I only have four* – but as you probably know better than most by now: 2, 3, 4, 5, 6…; it’s no big difference. People tend to think that troubles multiply (some even logarithmically) by the number of kids, but they forget the truth about joy shared…
* In all fairness, I think my fourth actually being four months on its way when we made our move from Bergen to Sydney last November should cancel out your additional two. Lets call it even ;)

Anyway, besides wishing you luck I just want to back you up on the minimalist approach. We did the same, although with a little more luggage than you guys. Kudos to you! If nothing else, leaving your stuff behind is tremendously refreshing. And scary. You realize you really don’t need the stuff you always considered indispensable**. And good choice of tools too. Especially found Google My Maps really useful.
** Don’t forget your V5F’s though; they really are indispensable :)

Cath Lawson May 3, 2010 at 8:34 pm

Hi Leo – We’re relocating this year and we’re doing pretty much the same as you. It just didn’t make sense to pay a fortune to ship a heap of stuff to another country.

I was going to sell most of our stuff on ebay but the WordPress Yardsale sounds like a great idea. Hope your move goes well and you enjoy San Francisco.

laura May 23, 2010 at 3:38 pm

Aren’t large families bad for carbon footprints? Kids demand more stuff and that creates clutter the older they get. A one child family is enough in this overcrowded planet. Minimalism and small families fits into the 21st century. I fail to see consistency in Leo B.’s ideas and his large family being a minimalist.

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