Isn’t there too much stress in your family?

Stress is a part of our lives. We both need it and have too much of it. How to find the happy medium?

Unfortunately, stressed parents “infect” their children with stress as well. Bad atmosphere spreads out very quickly, and home – the place which is supposed to be the oasis of calm and to help family members relieve the whole work or school stress – becomes the field of a battle. It is almost impossible to get rid of stress entirely.

However, what should we do if our family suffers from too much stress which results in health and relationship problems? First, identify the source of stress, then do something to make it less harmful. We have some ideas how to do it.

  1. Take care of a good night sleep. You have probably heard that sleeping well is healthy and helps relieve stress. It is true, and what is more, problems with sleeping are…another stress generators. Make your family go to bed earlier, have some “sleep weekends” and apart from this, find some time during the day to close your eyes and clear your head for a few minutes (or have a nap if it is possible).
  2. Stop yelling. Yelling is almost inevitable if we feel stressed and overwhelmed. But it does not help, it makes even more problems and strain between family members. Showing respect towards each other and talking calmly can help get rid of the strain and build trust. Children rarely listen to yelling parents, they just start yelling themselves.
  3. Have family dinners. Nobody wants to spend time with cranky people, even if these are their parents. Do not expect you children to cheerfully come to the family table if you are angry and depressed. Make this time more appealing and pleasant– for example, you can play a game in which you tell, in turns, something nice about other family member.
  4. Help your children cope with stress by setting a good example. If you manage with stress by eating too much or drinking alcohol, do not expect that your children will learn good habits in this area. You observe that your child is withdrawing? Talk to each other, take him/her for a walk, bike ride or to other place.
  5. Do not burden yourself and your children with too many activities. Running from one extra activity to another can cause a lot of tension. This tension can, in turn, cause many health problems. First of all, think if it is not too much? You can either reduce the amount of activities or just change the attitude and make it less hectic (being punctual is important, but it is not worth your terrible headache afterwards).

Find your own family stress-remover. If you observe that your family is more and more under the weather, have some sleep, stomach or back problems, it is time for all of you to calm down. Chronic stress harms our immune system and influences negatively our whole body. The only way to relieve the stress and unite the whole family at the same time is to find an activity which will enable you to both get rid of stress and spend time together.

“I need to change my life!” – useful tips to reach your goal

To start with, a very well-known truth – we all are different. Something that works for one person can be useless for another. This fact makes the whole process of changing life more difficult and discouraging, because using someone’s experience may not result in our own success. We just need to determine on our own what exactly works for us and what we should devote our time for.

It is hard to start changing your bad habits or forming new ones which are supposed to make you life better. But one thing is necessary – thorough analysis of your life, troubles and qualities. You must know what you start with and what needs some repair. If you already know where the problem is, the next step is forming certain habits which have the power to improve the quality of your life.

Here are some suggestions for useful habits which can improve your life:

  1. Positive thinking. You have probably heard of it many times, but still you have not implemented this in your life for real. And that is a shame. It is not the key to success in itself, but it prepares the ground without which your success will remain far away from you. Start with realizing your negative thinking – you may be surprised how much negative thoughts pull you down every day. When you finally are aware of the bad thoughts you will have to systematically work on getting rid of them. Positive thinking helps you become more motivated, powerful and strong-willed.
  2. Next cliché you have heard thousands of times – physical activity helps your body and mind remain in good shape. Sport really improves you – helps relieve stress, builds your strong-will, self-confidence and improves your mood. It is significant to prepare this good ground for changes. A sound mind in a sound body.
  3. Single –tasking. Stop making hundreds of things at the same time and you will see how more efficient you are becoming. Multi-tasking makes you: more stressed, overwhelmed and less effective and focused.
  4. Choosing one goal. Have a list of goals and arrange them in the order of importance. Focus on achieving one of them at a time. When you succeed with the first one go to the second and so on.
  5. Choosing the important things. Find things which are precious and necessary for you and concentrate on them. Get rid of useless disruptions and things which do not give you anything good. You are the builder of your life and you decide about the way it looks like.
  6. Being kind. Treat other people with kindness and they will return a favor. If you find it hard, try step by step – start with being kind to one person every day.
  7. Daily routine. Your day should be organized, because this will help you gain more harmony and reduce stress. It is also a good way to become more productive.

How to form the habits?

Choose one habit to form and focus on it for the next 30 days. To make it more visible, write your plan and strategy on paper. Realise what your motivation is, think of possible obstacles and ways of overcoming them. Announce it publicly and inform about progress. Find support for weaker moments and remember about rewarding yourself for small successes. If it ends up with failure, think it over, find out what the reason of the failure was, draw conclusions and… try again.